Parents Page

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Things that make you go-
"hmmmm......."
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Good Parents...
 Can smile after only a few hours sleep.

 Put love notes in lunch boxes.

 Are there when needed, out of the way when not, and are able to recognize the difference.

 Laugh at knock-knock jokes (even the zillionth time)

Are good role models.

Soften discipline with kindness.

 Accept that a child may not turn out exactly as they would like, and still encourage them, support them, and smile.

 Know that children can't be perfect.

 Celebrate special moments, no matter how small.

 Tell their kids they love them a lot. (Especially, when the kids don't want to hear it!)
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To be in your children's memories tomorrow,
you have to be in their lives today.


"You can't depend on your judgment
when your imagination is out of focus."
~Mark Twain~

The Nit Picking Details on the Itchiest Bug Around

"It is easier to build strong children
than to repair broken men."
~Fredrick Douglass~

WHAT EVERY PARENT SHOULD KNOW

   Drugs and Alcohol
    Kids are offered drugs at an alarmingly early age. It is imperative that parents know and watch for early signs of drug use.

   Suicide
    How can you recognize suicidal thoughts in your child before it is too late? There is no foolproof method, but here are some signs of trouble.

   Depression
    Depression is a condition that sometimes accompanies suicidal thoughts, yet often appears on its own. We often forget that a child can be depressed even if he or she is part of a happy family.

   Peer Pressure
    Your child is affected by peer pressure from the first time he or she plays with siblings or other children. You can't make peer pressure go away, but you can teach your child how to deal with it.

   Talking about Sex
    Teaching your children about the importance of physical boundaries can help them make responsible decisions about sex. If you are uncomfortable discussing this topic, try these suggestions to overcome your reluctance.

   Gangs
        Criminal street gangs are one of our nation's most serious problems. They recruit new members everyday in cities and small towns across our country. Here are some signs that your child may be involved in a gang.

   Self Injury
    Self-harming is an increasingly common problem among troubled teens. It can take a variety of forms, one of the more serious of which is "cutting", a form of self-mutilation in which people, mostly girls between the ages of 11 and 13, injure themselves with scissors, knives, razor blades or other sharp objects. It can also involve burning or hair pulling.

   Kids and Divorce
    Recent studies show that divorce almost always has painful effects on the children involved, no matter how unhappy the marriage has been. When divorce does occur, parents need to protect their children as much as possible.

   Eating Disorders
    Western society currently places great emphasis on being thin. Many young people find themselves striving for the unrealistic physical "perfection" depicted in the media. The result is sometimes an eating disorder. Check here for signs that your child may have one.

   Other BOYS TOWN USA information

   www.boystown.org
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This information deals with some very important issues, and
BOYS TOWN USA
has graciously granted
Katie Did and the Neon Peach
permission to post the material in this panel for the benefit of children, and anyone whose lives involve children in any means.
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Please, take a moment to look over this information and make a note of important phone numbers that might be of assistance in the future.
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Most of you will know some of this like the back of your hand, and other information here will come as a shock, revelation, or in some cases, simply a reminder.
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Katie Did and the Neon Peach would like to thank
BOYS TOWN USA
for the use of this material.
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Katie Did is not associated, affiliated with or employed by Boys Town USA, but feels they provide a very useful resource to the communities across the country, and the information they provide is current, accurate and thorough and even more importantly, may save the life of a child. The material contained within this section of the "Parent's Page" on Katie Did and the Neon Peach web site is copyright 1999 by BOYS TOWN USA and is reprinted here with special permission. Reproduction of this material in any form requires permission from BOYS TOWN USA.
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BOYS TOWN USA NATIONAL HOTLINE
24 HR. TOLL FREE
CRISIS SERVICE
FOR CHILDREN AND PARENTS
1- 800- 448- 3000
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"Things that make Parents
go - hmmmm......."

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Keep Your Fork

There was a woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had
been given three months to live. As she was getting her things "in order", she contacted her pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes. She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in. The woman also requested to be buried with her favorite Bible.

Everything was in order and the pastor was preparing to leave when the woman suddenly remembered something very important to her.

"There's one more thing," she said excitedly.

"What's that?" came the pastor's reply.

"This is very important," the woman continued. "I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand." The pastor stood looking at the woman, not knowing quite what to say.

"That surprises you, doesn't it?" the woman asked.

"Well, to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request," said the pastor.

The woman explained. "In all my years of attending church socials and potluck dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, 'Keep your fork'. It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming...like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie.
Something wonderful, and with substance! So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder "What's with the fork?". Then I want you to tell them: "Keep your fork....the best is yet to come".
~anonymous~

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The Grandfather

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. "We must do something about Grandfather," said the son. "I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor."

So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?" Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up." The four-year-old smiled and went back to work. The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening, the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled. Children are remarkably perceptive. Their eyes ever observe, their ears ever listen, and their minds ever process the messages they absorb. If they see us patiently provide a happy home atmosphere for family members, they will imitate that attitude for the rest of their lives. The wise parent realizes that every day the building blocks are being laid for the child's future. Let's be wise builders. You don't stop laughing because you grow old; you grow old because you stop laughing.
~anonymous~

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Written By Mother Teresa

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, People may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you've got anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

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This Weeks Subliminal Thoughts....

It is hard to understand how a cemetery raised its burial cost and blamed it on the cost of living.

Just remember...if the world didn't suck, we'd all fall off.

We are born naked, wet, and hungry. Then things get worse.

The 50-50-90 rule: Anytime you have a 50-50 chance of getting something right, there's a 90% probability you'll get
it wrong.

It is said that if you line up all the cars in the world end to end, someone would be stupid enough to try and pass them.

Laughing stock - cattle with a sense of humor.

You can't have everything, where would you put it?

Latest survey shows that 3 out of 4 people make up 75% of the world's population.

If the shoe fits, get another one just like it.

Give a man a fish and he will eat for a day. Teach a man to fish and he will sit in a boat drinking beer all day.

Flashlight: A case for holding dead batteries.

Shin: A device for finding furniture in the dark.

As long as there are tests, there will be prayer in public schools.

A fine is a tax for doing wrong. A tax is a fine for doing well.

It was recently discovered that research causes cancer in rats.

The only cure for insomnia is to get more sleep.

I wished the buck stopped here, as I could use a few.

I started out with nothing, and I still have most of it.

When you go into court you are putting yourself in the hands of 12 people that weren't smart enough to get out of jury duty.

Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.

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The new minister's wife had a baby. The minister appealed to the congregation for a salary increase to cover the addition to the family. The congregation agreed that it was only fair, and approved it. When the next child arrived, the minister appealed again and the congregation approved again. Several years and five children later, the congregation was a bit upset over the increasing expense. This turned into a rather loud meeting one night with the minister. Finally, the minister stood and shouted out, "Having children is an Act of God!!"

An older man in the back stood and shouted back, "Rain and snow are Acts of God, too, and we wear rubbers for them!"

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Wednesday, January 19, 2000
Wise Parent Says...

Motherhood ~ If it was going to be easy, it never would
have started with something called labor!
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Shouting to make your children obey is like using the horn to steer your car, and you get about the same results.
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The smartest advice on raising children is to
enjoy them while they are still on your side.
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The best way to keep kids at home is to make the home a pleasant atmosphere and to let the air out of the tires.
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The right temperature in a home is maintained
by warm hearts, not by hot heads.
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Raising a teenager is like nailing Jell-O to a tree.
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Parents: People who bare infants, bore
teenagers, and board newlyweds.
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The joy of motherhood: The time when
all the children are finally in bed.
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Life's golden age is when the kids are too old to need
baby-sitters and too young to borrow the family car.
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Any child can tell you that the sole purpose of a middle
name is so he can tell when he's really in trouble.
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Grandparents are similar to a piece of string...
~ handy to have around and easily wrapped
around the fingers of grandchildren.~
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A child outgrows your lap, but never outgrows your heart.
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God gave you two ears and one mouth.... so you
can listen twice as much as you talk.
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Adolescence is the age when children
try to bring up their parents.
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You know the only people in this world who are
always sure about the proper way to raise children?
Those who've never had any.
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Cleaning your house while your kids are at home is like
trying to shovel the driveway during a snowstorm.
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Oh to be only half as wonderful as my child thought I
was when he was small, and half as stupid as my
teenager now thinks I am.
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There are only two things a child will share willingly, communicable diseases and his mother's age.
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Adolescence is the age at which children stop asking questions because they know all the answers.
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An alarm clock is a device for awakening
people who don't have small children.
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No wonder kids are confused today. Half the adults tell them to find themselves; the other half tell them to get lost.
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Kids really brighten a household; they never turn off any lights.
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